Many of us want to make changes but we don’t know where to start. Many times we can view change as a monumental task that we are apprehensive to commit to. Let’s break it down. Which of the habits from this list could you immediately…
By Chris Huff
Throughout the last 30 years of my career, I’ve consistently found myself working in the orbit of high capacity leaders. At NCR, I joined the computer division that pioneered multi-user computing and their people were highly sought for leadership roles throughout the company. It was a fast paced, high intensity season and they loved fast paced high intensity leaders. By the age of 30 I was leading the Global Support Center for Retail Systems and was constantly in the middle of the cutting edge projects.
Later, when God called me into vocational ministry, I joined 12Stone Church (yet another fast paced organization). The leadership team here is a full-throttle, sacrifice and risk, high intensity group of individuals. We share great vision. There is a high demand for excellence. It’s a “Type A” rich environment.
In spite of my love of “Type-A” environments, I am a “Type-B”
What does Type-B mean? It means that I am wired to cooperate rather than compete. I don’t carry the same level of intensity as the leaders above me. When working with them, I have to “power-up”. I prefer to be alone rather than in a crowd. My capacity (or energy level) to interact with people is much less than the other leaders around me. I have to manage my calendar carefully, or I will implode after too many appointments.
Earlier in my career, that truth was hard for me to accept. I tried to be high energy and fast paced like the other leaders around me, and nearly burned myself out trying to pretend to be “Type-A” and keep up the pace. Fortunately, I heard a leadership lesson by John Maxwell called “Second and Satisfied” and it changed my life.
Leaders do not need to be “Type-A” to be successful. In fact, “Type-B” leaders are invaluable for any organization. Take a look at my self-description above where I shared that I am “wired to cooperate rather than compete.” Just imagine how dysfunctional a team could become if everyone were “Type A” and competitive. I help bring the team together to accomplish its goals.
Consider this: I recently read that Walt Disney was a “Type-B” and it shocked me. Really? Are they referring to the animator/director/screenwriter who single-handedly built the entertainment empire? The guy who won more Academy Awards and nominations than any other human being? Wow…maybe I’ll be okay after all…
We can thrive as “Type-B” leaders
Here are a few tips that I have found helpful in my journey.
Come out of the Closet
This is the single most important step to take. Far too many leaders are pretending to be someone (or something) they are not…and that consumes too much energy!
It also takes a large amount of courage to admit that we don’t fit into the leadership mold that the world has developed for us. But, it is only when we stop pretending and embrace our God-given design that we can begin to flourish! Only then can we become the person that we were designed to be.
Are you a “Type-B” Leader? (Test yourself here) If you are, be proud of your natural personality and begin to lead out of that strength.
Give yourself permission to lead
Our “Type B” personality does not imply that we have less drive…or less desire to make a difference. We have plenty of ideas, gifts, talents, and strong preferences. The difference is that we aren’t driven by an inner need to rule the world. If God has called you to leadership…then step forward and lead. Refuse to allow the enemy to tell you that you aren’t wired with the right stuff!
We need to remember that we have choices. No one is asking us to sacrifice our soul for the ministry (or organization). Pastor Kevin Myers (our senior pastor) tells the staff “I don’t expect you to sacrifice your family for this church…just don’t expect me to sacrifice this church for your family.” If the mission is costing you too much, then act with integrity and step aside. Don’t reduce the mission to match your capacity.
I choose to be here at 12Stone. I chose to live on the edge and sacrifice for the mission. It is Jesus’ call upon my life and He sustains me. If I am starting to burn out, it is because I am tackling projects or responsibilities that he never asked of me.
Protect and Refuel
There are plenty of warning signs when I’ve exceeded my capacity for people and meetings. I become extremely tired. I begin expressing irritable behaviors. I have trouble focusing on my task list. The list goes on (no need to bore you there!)
My wife knows the signs and she escorts me away when I hit my empty tank and helps me retreat. Even though she prefers having company (or going out with friends), she is gracious to protect at least two uncommitted evenings during the week.
I have also learned how to plan mini-vacations that recharge my batteries. I have my best “think time” when escaping to my sailboat or motorcycle for a few hours.
If I watch the warning signs and continuously refuel my tank, then I can lead bigger and better when the organization needs me to pour on the juice!
Conquer Conflict Avoidance
In general, Type-B leaders tend to protect the harmony of the team and are tempted to avoid confronting others when it is needed. We find ways to get along without actually resolving the underlying tensions. This is damaging to the team.
More often than our Type-A counterparts, we need to conquer this behavior and learn how to engage in productive conflict resolution. I would like to suggest the book “Crucial Conversations (Tools for talking when the stakes are high)” as a resource to help you overcome this behavior.
I would like to end with this related thought. Do not confuse personality with submission. Each of us must submit to our leader…regardless of our personality type. Type-B leaders are not submitting when we say “yes” on the outside and then resist on the inside. We must give our whole hearts to embracing the leaders above us. And, we must deal directly with any insubordination of type A’s beneath us.
Thanks for listening!
“This article is used by permission from Dr. Dan Reiland’s free monthly e-newsletter, “The Pastor’s Coach,” available at www.INJOY.com.”
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are standing on shore
waiting for their ships to come in,
TAKE THE PLUNGE
swim out to meet
~by Carl Mays
Sweet dim sunset at Great Ocean Road. Recharging at the shore and plunging ourselves to meet our rescue into the other shore and deep we go to explore the chilling sea waves embracing our faces with great refreshments. Fresher plunge away sinks our minds in a different perspective that a normal day task tries to robotically consumes our thought patterns sometimes week after week without redirecting it out of our comfort zones. Fear not and let’s take the plunge together in the journey we choose to with like-minded people you surrounded yourself by. Above anything choose wisely like Job’s friends in the Bible who would have discerningly stuck with their friend Job suffering at the corner while they sit with him for days and be that friend with sealed lips while lamenting with him. What a friend to have, and if you have never found that friend yet, he’s the Saviour Yeshua, He’s a friend that sticks closer than a brother. He’s so close even if we feel nobody’s there simply call His name and He’s at your rescue like a ship waiting there for your plunge. We do hope you enjoy the journey you have chosen even if it takes time; the peace or shalom in your heart and mind suffices it all.
1. “Only One You: In the history of the world, there has been only one you, There will never be anyone else exactly you. There will never be anyone else exactly like you. If you don’t develop what you have, the world will never experience an individual who can do exactly what you can do, the way you can do it – in family, in career, in sports, in school and in society. The victories, the completeness, the success and the lifestyle that you can achieve, is only for you. It’s not for anyone else. And you deserve to be the best that you can possibly be!” ~by Carl Mays~
2. Do not accept someone else’s low opinion of you. God knows better – and you should too! ~by Carl Mays
3. “The wisdom of Ecclesiastes is powerful and the lesson on teamwork is simple: One standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Working together willingly for a common purpose can lead to the accomplishment of seemingly impossible tasks.” ~by Carl Mays~
4. “Athletes do not go through the agony of practice and training to avoid losing; they do it to make the team and be a winner.” ~by John C. Maxwell
6. “A great man is always willing to be little.” ~by Ralph Waldo Emerson
7. “Pay now, play later; play now, pay later.” ~by John C. Maxwell
8. “Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality.” ~by Warren G. Bennis
9. “In the business world, the rearview mirror is always clearer than the windshield.” ~by Warren Buffet
10. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” ~by Thomas A. Edison
11. “If you want to succeed you should strike out on new paths, rather than travel the worn paths of accepted success.” ~by John D. Rockefeller
12. “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” ~ by C. S. Lewis