How to Thrive As a Type-B Leader in a Type-A World

By Chris Huff

Throughout the last 30 years of my career, I’ve consistently found myself working in the orbit of high capacity leaders. At NCR, I joined the computer division that pioneered multi-user computing and their people were highly sought for leadership roles throughout the company. It was a fast paced, high intensity season and they loved fast paced high intensity leaders. By the age of 30 I was leading the Global Support Center for Retail Systems and was constantly in the middle of the cutting edge projects.

Later, when God called me into vocational ministry, I joined 12Stone Church (yet another fast paced organization). The leadership team here is a full-throttle, sacrifice and risk, high intensity group of individuals. We share great vision. There is a high demand for excellence. It’s a “Type A” rich environment.

In spite of my love of “Type-A” environments, I am a “Type-B”

What does Type-B mean? It means that I am wired to cooperate rather than compete. I don’t carry the same level of intensity as the leaders above me. When working with them, I have to “power-up”. I prefer to be alone rather than in a crowd. My capacity (or energy level) to interact with people is much less than the other leaders around me. I have to manage my calendar carefully, or I will implode after too many appointments.

Earlier in my career, that truth was hard for me to accept. I tried to be high energy and fast paced like the other leaders around me, and nearly burned myself out trying to pretend to be “Type-A” and keep up the pace. Fortunately, I heard a leadership lesson by John Maxwell called “Second and Satisfied” and it changed my life.

Leaders do not need to be “Type-A” to be successful. In fact, “Type-B” leaders are invaluable for any organization. Take a look at my self-description above where I shared that I am “wired to cooperate rather than compete.” Just imagine how dysfunctional a team could become if everyone were “Type A” and competitive. I help bring the team together to accomplish its goals.

Consider this: I recently read that Walt Disney was a “Type-B” and it shocked me. Really? Are they referring to the animator/director/screenwriter who single-handedly built the entertainment empire? The guy who won more Academy Awards and nominations than any other human being? Wow…maybe I’ll be okay after all…

We can thrive as “Type-B” leaders

Here are a few tips that I have found helpful in my journey.

Come out of the Closet

This is the single most important step to take. Far too many leaders are pretending to be someone (or something) they are not…and that consumes too much energy!

It also takes a large amount of courage to admit that we don’t fit into the leadership mold that the world has developed for us. But, it is only when we stop pretending and embrace our God-given design that we can begin to flourish! Only then can we become the person that we were designed to be.

Are you a “Type-B” Leader? (Test yourself here) If you are, be proud of your natural personality and begin to lead out of that strength.

Give yourself permission to lead

Our “Type B” personality does not imply that we have less drive…or less desire to make a difference. We have plenty of ideas, gifts, talents, and strong preferences. The difference is that we aren’t driven by an inner need to rule the world. If God has called you to leadership…then step forward and lead. Refuse to allow the enemy to tell you that you aren’t wired with the right stuff!

Choose Carefully

We need to remember that we have choices. No one is asking us to sacrifice our soul for the ministry (or organization). Pastor Kevin Myers (our senior pastor) tells the staff “I don’t expect you to sacrifice your family for this church…just don’t expect me to sacrifice this church for your family.” If the mission is costing you too much, then act with integrity and step aside. Don’t reduce the mission to match your capacity.

I choose to be here at 12Stone. I chose to live on the edge and sacrifice for the mission. It is Jesus’ call upon my life and He sustains me. If I am starting to burn out, it is because I am tackling projects or responsibilities that he never asked of me.

Protect and Refuel

There are plenty of warning signs when I’ve exceeded my capacity for people and meetings. I become extremely tired. I begin expressing irritable behaviors. I have trouble focusing on my task list. The list goes on (no need to bore you there!)

My wife knows the signs and she escorts me away when I hit my empty tank and helps me retreat. Even though she prefers having company (or going out with friends), she is gracious to protect at least two uncommitted evenings during the week.

I have also learned how to plan mini-vacations that recharge my batteries. I have my best “think time” when escaping to my sailboat or motorcycle for a few hours.

If I watch the warning signs and continuously refuel my tank, then I can lead bigger and better when the organization needs me to pour on the juice!

Conquer Conflict Avoidance

In general, Type-B leaders tend to protect the harmony of the team and are tempted to avoid confronting others when it is needed. We find ways to get along without actually resolving the underlying tensions. This is damaging to the team.

More often than our Type-A counterparts, we need to conquer this behavior and learn how to engage in productive conflict resolution. I would like to suggest the book “Crucial Conversations (Tools for talking when the stakes are high)” as a resource to help you overcome this behavior.

I would like to end with this related thought. Do not confuse personality with submission. Each of us must submit to our leader…regardless of our personality type. Type-B leaders are not submitting when we say “yes” on the outside and then resist on the inside. We must give our whole hearts to embracing the leaders above us. And, we must deal directly with any insubordination of type A’s beneath us.

Thanks for listening!

“This article is used by permission from Dr. Dan Reiland’s free monthly e-newsletter, “The Pastor’s Coach,” available at www.INJOY.com.”

Why Westerners Retire in Asia [Infographic]

The infographic verbalizes for itself via retireinasia.com, why do westerners retiring in Asia. Why not? It’s one of the best affordable and great countries to choose, stay and live longer especially if you choose where more sustainability is inspirited. Asians do have more vigorous family ties in general, especially where most part of Asian countries do not have nursing homes for their old folks rather families will support, take care and live with them due to  strong bonding.

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Just One Plunge Away

“While others
are standing on shore
waiting for their ships to come in,
TAKE THE PLUNGE
and
swim out to meet
YOURS!”

~by Carl Mays

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Sweet dim sunset at Great Ocean Road. Recharging at the shore and plunging ourselves to meet our rescue into the other shore and deep we go to explore the chilling sea waves embracing our faces with great refreshments. Fresher plunge away sinks our minds in a different perspective that a normal day task tries to robotically consumes our thought patterns sometimes week after week without redirecting it out of our comfort zones. Fear not and let’s take the plunge together in the journey we choose to with like-minded people you surrounded yourself by. Above anything choose wisely like Job’s friends in the Bible who would have discerningly stuck with their friend Job suffering at the corner while they sit with him for days and be that friend with sealed lips while lamenting with him. What a friend to have, and if you have never found that friend yet, he’s the Saviour Yeshua, He’s a friend that sticks closer than a brother. He’s so close even if we feel nobody’s there simply call His name and He’s at your rescue like a ship waiting there for your plunge. We do hope you enjoy the journey you have chosen even if it takes time; the peace or shalom in your heart and mind suffices it all.

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12 Winning Motivational Quotes for 2013

 

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1. “Only One You: In the history of the world, there has been only one you, There will never be anyone else exactly you. There will never be anyone else exactly like you. If you don’t develop what you have, the world will never experience an individual who can do exactly what you can do, the way you can do it – in family, in career, in sports, in school and in society. The victories, the completeness, the success and the lifestyle that you can achieve, is only for you. It’s not for anyone else. And you deserve to be the best that you can possibly be!” ~by Carl Mays~

2. Do not accept someone else’s low opinion of you. God knows better – and you should too! ~by Carl Mays

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3. “The wisdom of Ecclesiastes is powerful and the lesson on teamwork is simple: One standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Working together willingly for a common purpose can lead to the accomplishment of seemingly impossible tasks.” ~by Carl Mays~

4. “Athletes do not go through the agony of practice and training to avoid losing; they do it to make the team and be a winner.” ~by John C. Maxwell

5. “Managers help people see themselves as they are; Leaders help people to see themselves better than they are.” ~by Jim Rohn

6. “A great man is always willing to be little.” ~by Ralph Waldo Emerson

7. “Pay now, play later; play now, pay later.” ~by John C. Maxwell

8. “Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality.” ~by Warren G. Bennis

9. “In the business world, the rearview mirror is always clearer than the windshield.” ~by Warren Buffet

10. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” ~by Thomas A. Edison

11. “If you want to succeed you should strike out on new paths, rather than travel the worn paths of accepted success.”  ~by John D. Rockefeller

12. “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” ~ by C. S. Lewis

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Effective Steps for Managing Anxiety

Have you ever been in a situation that brought on sweats, rapid heartbeat and shortness of breath? You probably weren’t having a heart attacknbut an anxiety attack.  If you suffer from anxiety disorders, learning to manage it is the first step to overcoming it.

Anxiety is characterized as extreme reactions to fearful situations.  When someone follows you into a dark alley, those anxious feelings of a racing heartbeat and sweaty palms gives way to heightened senses  and a rush of adrenalin that can save your life.  This is the fight or flight syndrome.

In the case of frequent anxiety, the fearful feelings are dread of a particular situation and not the situation itself.  Getting caught in traffic can cause an anxiety attack over what might happen when you get to work late.  Starting a new job can bring on anxiety attacks.  You don’t know anyone and fear of that unknown can send you into a panic.

Everyone experiences panic or anxiety in small ways.  Like the fight or flight example, it can save your life.  In new situations, we get panicky but when the outcome we fear fails to materialize, the anxiety stops.  For someone with chronic anxiety, this is not the case.

Every situation that brings anxiety is not life-threatening.  More than likely it is an extremely stressful situation that has brought on the anxiety as a way of dealing with it.  Unchecked anxiety of this type can lead to depression.

If you suffer from anxiety attacks on occasion or a more frequent anxiety disorder, there are steps you can take to keep your anxiety under control.

1. See a professional.  This is always a good first step.  Self-diagnosis of any type of physical or mental condition is unwise and can be dangerous.  A professional psychologist can help you understand your anxiety and prescribe medication or other effective techniques.

2. Get a good night’s sleep.  During the sleep cycle, your body repairs itself.  You feel more rested after several hours of restorative sleep, reaching the REM stage.  Most people need eight hours a night which varies within an hour or two each way.

3. Exercise on a consistent basis.  Exercise helps you to use oxygen more efficiently.  It helps to get more oxygen to the brain.  It also increases focus which may help you see solutions to problems rather than simply worrying about them.

4. Meditate.  Meditation is more than chanting mantras and Yoga. Psalms 119:26-28 a meditation of King David to Yahweh God “I told you of  my ways, and you answered me; teach me your laws. Make me understand the way of your precepts, and I will meditate on your wonders. I am melting away from anxiety and grief; renew my strength, in keeping with your word.” (Complete Jewish Bible)

Yoga practice is an exercise that involves quieting the mind and controlling your breathing. Simple mediation such as taking 5 minutes to clear your mind everyday can work wonders in the fight against anxiety.

5. Manage the worry.  When you feel your pulse start to quicken, count backwards from ten.  As you count, focus on the situation.  What has actually happened? Resist the urge to read anything more into the situation.

6. Don’t use alcohol.  You might think that the glass of wine is relaxing your tension but alcohol is a depressant.  In anxious situations you could rely too heavily on it and gain another problem in the process.

7. Find some relaxing activities.  Stress can rob you of your energy.  On a regular basis, do something you like such as gardening, painting, reading or listening to music.

Anxiety can come into our lives at any time.  It’s normal.  When the anxiety becomes frequent you could be at risk for more serious conditions.  If you feel your anxiety is starting to take over your life or increasingly causing you problems, seek professional help immediately.  There is no need to suffer this terrible condition in silence.

Cheerio & Blessings,

 

 

Entrepreneurial Father’s Day Appreciation

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In Australia, we celebrate Father’s Day every first Sunday of September while Australia gets to choose “Australian Father of the Year Award” to do they recognize as such. It’s great to honor our parents although this would not restrict us to do it only on Father’s Day or Mother’s Day when it can be any day of the year to surprise our old man.

Happy Father’s Day Quotations:

“You lose everything – you lose money, you lose business, you lose self respect.
But what jumped out to me was the importance, above anything by a million miles,
was the wellbeing of my children.”
~by John Symonds (newly-crowned Australian Father of the Year Award 2012)

Never raise your hand to your kids.  It leaves your groin unprotected. ~Red Buttons

I don’t care how poor a man is; if he has family, he’s rich.  ~M*A*S*H, Colonel Potter

Father! – to God himself we cannot give a holier name.  ~William Wordsworth

Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope.  ~Bill Cosby

One father is more than a hundred Schoolemasters.  ~George Herbert, Outlandish Proverbs, 1640

He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.  ~Clarence Budington Kelland

We can’t choose whether we will get any more time, but we can choose what we do with it. ~by John Maxwell

 

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Gen X or Baby Boomers America’s Great Consumer: Infographic

Previously I reposted the Generation Y infographic. This time is an infographic referring to our Baby Boomers Generation and most of us today if we’re not one of them, the Baby Boomers could be our parents or grandparents at least, though the infographic below was narrowed down to the Americans, it could still be applicable to the first world consumers or the western way of living among the Baby Boomers alike. Tell us, does your baby boomer shop a lot according to the infographic? What do they shop often?

How are Baby Boomers or Generation X defined by netlingo.com?

“It’s pronounced as {jenn-X} a.k.a. gen x -or- GenX. The generation of Americans born to the baby boomers, this includes people born between 1963 and 1979. It’s a popular marketing notion to segment an audience into a particular demographic, and “GenXers” are known for making the transition between the old way of doing things and the new way. With a focus on a better balance between work and personal life, GenX demands in the workplace have resulted in more part-time jobs, telecommuting, self-employment, flex time, significant-other insurance coverage, and a variety of alternative work arrangements.”

Baby Boomers: America's Great Consumer Generation [INFOGRAPHIC]

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Gen Y in the Workplace: Infographic

Before looking at the interesting infographic below, who are the Generation Y?
Netlingo.com gives us a good definition of the Gen Y (pronounced: jenn-why) “a.k.a. gen y -or- GenY -or- gen m -or- millennials -or- digital natives -or- echo boomers -or- millennial students -or- 21st century learners -or- the net generation. The generation of Americans who are post-generation x, this group is considered to include people born between 1980 and 1995. Marketers use these terms to categorize an audience into a particular demographic in order to identify the trends associated with that group. Educators also use these terms to describe an age group of students. The formative influences for this group include constant technological change (these are people who have never used a rotary telephone or an 8-track player). Indeed, a millenial is one who has always known a life with computers (including digital game toys, GPS systems, and the Internet). It’s been said that the baby boomers are wildly optimistic, that the GenXers are skeptical and pessimistic, and that the millennials are practical and pragmatic. “Gen M” refers to generation media kids.”

INFOGRAPHIC: Gen Y In The Workplace

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

INFOGRAPHIC: Gen Y In The Workplace via Cool Daily Infographics

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Back Story of Books vs. e-Books: Infographic

What do you really prefer? What the formats use in electronic books?

A book (P-Book) or an eBook or both. We all know what eBook mean but because we love our friend netlingo.com‘s definition for the sake of Gen YGen X, Gen E, or any generations out there; netlingo.com states ” eBook is a short for electronic book (also seen as ebook and eBook) while p-book or printed book is a slang for a good old fashioned printed book (as opposed to an e-book). . It’s a book that can be downloaded and read on a computer or other digital device. For example, envision a brave new world where freshmen college students load their electronic book readers with “e-books” that contain their curricula and textbooks for the next four years, then they simply log on to the Internet for updates. The challenge is developing a hardware medium that will make e-reading more soothing on the eyes. For most e-book formats, you need a PDA or handheld device. Advances are being made regard to the quality of e-book readers. There are several e-book formats:”

The Mobipocket Reader
The Adobe / Glassbook eBook Reader
Microsoft Reader
PALM OS or WINDOWS CE
HTML format
The Open eBook Publication Structure
The Rocket eBook
The SoftBook
Adobe PDF
Rich Text Format
ASCII

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“Culture Trumps Vision”

By Dr. Sam Chand

I was born and raised in a pastor’s home in India, and have been in full-time ministry since 1973. God has guided me through a wide and varied journey. My experience includes serving the church as a janitor, youth pastor, senior pastor, Christian university president, and as a denominational leader. I now serve the Kingdom at large as a leadership consultant, conference speaker and author. This is not to describe my pedigree, but rather to give you context that with all that in my background, the last few years have been quite frustrating—especially in my consultations with “successful” churches. Let me tell you why. From outward appearances they were oozing with success and to hear the pastors speak publicly at various events you would think they found a church panacea. However, in my private conversations I kept hearing the same song: “I know we should be further down the road but we aren’t. We have great facilities, numeric growth and strong under girding programs but I know something is wrong, something is missing—just can’t put my finger on it.”

Like a good consultant, I would probe and prod and create leadership architecture to facilitate the pastor’s vision—however both of us knew something was still amiss till one day… One day the invisible hit me—it wasn’t the vision, the mission, the core values, the facilities, the finances, the ministry programs etc—it was the toxic culture that created a quagmire and bogged down vision fulfillment.

Many pastors pour time and resources into communicating a strong, clear vision for their church, but when their vision fails to materialize, they become confused and frustrated. Quite often, they don’t realize that culture—not vision—is the most powerful factor in any organization. It’s often unspoken, unexamined, and unnoticed, but it determines how people respond to leadership and vision. My book CRACKING YOUR CHURCH’S CULTURE CODE: Seven Keys to Unleashing Vision & Inspiration describes the concept of organizational culture in a church environment, outlines the impact of culture, and offers the promise that the reader will be able to recognize the connection between culture and vision, empower people to do their very best and love doing it, and have a clear process to implement cultural change.

As a leadership consultant, I often wondered why the best strategic plans and good leadership often were not able to move churches in the desired direction. Then I saw and smelled the noxious carbon monoxide of organizations—toxic culture. Quite often, leaders don’t see or smell it, but it poisons their relationships and derails their vision.

Churches have a wide range of personalities. A few common traits characterize healthy church cultures, and a set of opposite traits are found in unhealthy ones. Leaders all along the spectrum long for their churches to be strong, healthy environments where people thrive, support each other, and celebrate each other’s successes.

Some comments I hear from church leaders are, “We spent time and money to re energize the congregation. We took our top staff on a retreat to instill the new vision into them. We hired more staff, and we reformatted our worship experience. We started new programs. We redesigned our stage set. We created a killer website, reconfigured our offices, redecorated to create a fresh ambiance, and designed a new logo for the church. We even wrote a song about how great we are! But none of this has made a bit of difference. We haven’t gone backward, and I’m glad of that, but I thought we’d be way ahead of where we are today. What am I missing?”

Toxic culture is like carbon monoxide: you don’t see or smell it but you wake up dead! Senior pastors do a lot of good things, but they fail to understand the impact of the existing organizational culture on their new, exciting vision for the church. It is like changing the engine on a sports car to make it faster, but it’s spinning its wheels in the mud. Or to use a different metaphor, they try to transplant a heart into a patient whose body rejected the foreign organ. No matter how perfect the new heart is, the patient had no chance at all unless the body accepted it.

Culture — not vision or strategy — is the most powerful factor in any organization. It determines the receptivity of staff and volunteers to new ideas, unleashes or dampens creativity, builds or erodes enthusiasm, and creates a sense of pride or deep discouragement about working or being involved there.

When a disconnect exists between a leader’s vision and the receptivity of those being led, the problem isn’t the vision; it’s the culture.

First, we need to understand what we mean by the term organizational culture. It is the personality of the church. My simple definition of church culture is: “this is how we do things here.”

To help you uncover the nature of your existing culture and identify the steps of change, we must examine the full range of cultural health, from inspiring to toxic, and describe the seven keys of C-U-L-T-U-R-E.

Some questions for you to consider…

1. C ontrol

2. U nderstanding

3. L eadership

4. T rust

5. U nafraid

6. R esponsive

7. E xecution

Q. Is there authority with responsibility?
Q. Who actually controls what gets done and what doesn’t?
Q. Does everyone understand the “why” behind the “what”?
Q. Who are the primary designated communicators in the church?
Q. How is leadership discovered, developed and deployed?
Q. How are “new” leaders assimilated and how do “old” leaders receive them?
Q. How is trust earned in your church?
Q. Is failure fatal in your church?
Q. Is the culture fearless?
Q. Are innovation, creativity and new ideas offered and discussed freely?
Q. How responsive are team members to each other?
Q. Does the team think systemically?
Q. Are decisions and plans being executed?
Q. Does everyone know “who” does “what” by “when”?

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